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What is your relationship with money?
Does thinking about money make you anxious?
Are you losing sleep over it?
Does it make you feel insecure?
Our thoughts and feelings about money start at home. What are some of the things you remember hearing about money from your parents as a child?
“Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
“We don’t have money, we aren’t rich.”
“I can’t find the money to buy you new shoes.”
“Do you think I’m made of money!”
“Rich people are corrupt.”
“We can’t have it all.”
— Please take a moment and think about your money memories and internalized beliefs about money. Feel free to write them down if you have a journal. Are they limiting you or adding to your confidence and drive.
I recently attended a Hypnotherapy conference where one of the days was dedicated to money themed speakers. I always thought of myself as someone who is responsible with money as I am an Accumulator according to my Money Archetype but instead I realized that I had to level up my relationship with the energy of money and how I relate to it.
Here are my top 3 take aways that I think will make your relationship with money better too:
Money is energy: According to best selling Happy Money author Ken Honda, depending on if our attitude towards money is positive or negative, it will flow towards or away from us. That’s why we call it money circulation or flow because it is energy that is always moving. When you receive and spend well, the flow of money is healthy and you generally live a happy life. Conversely, if you are always feeling tension or fear around spending and receiving, chances are you are projecting that energy of fear through everyday situations. So Happy Money is when you do something out of joy or a feeling of appreciation for your life. For example, thinking to yourself when you spend: “My taxes contribute to building hospitals. Or I am thankful to be able to pay my bills or to have a delicious meal at a restaurant." This feeling of gratitude makes us grow and expand. So even if you don’t have a lot of money you can be happy. While you can be a millionaire and still be unhappy.
Happy money is a consequence of knowing your calling. How many of us sacrifice our mental and physical health for a paycheck? If we live our passion, then happy money is a consequence of living in alignment with our purpose as we don’t have to do things we don’t like for money. A friend once said to me “I need to figure out how to make money”. But money is a consequence of creating value, not a cause. What she should have been asking herself is: “What is my passion? What makes me thrive? What do I want to do with my life?” “If your vocation feels like a vacation then you’ve made it.” Unfortunately, 95% of us are in the flow of unhappy money which makes us feel out of control, anxious and small. The best way to figure out your vocation, is to ask yourself: What things spark joy if you win the lottery for example or What do you want your legacy to be? I also find the Human Design methodology to understand your gifts very helpful and that's how I became a coach and a writer. Once you find your 3-4 gifts, work on developing and perfecting them in order to bring value to people's lives - your potential Best Fit Customers. Even if the things that bring you joy might not become the main source of your income (artists for example), they will bring a new meaning to your life, and your job will allow you to enjoy your passions.
Your personal income will never outpace your personal development: Highly successful people are learners who seek to understand themselves and level up time and time again. The goal of business is to become a new person and make money as a consequence. A great question to ask yourself is: Do I have the right beliefs to achieve my goals? One of my professional goals in my late thirties was to learn to advocate for myself at work. I was nervous about asking for salary increases so I leveled up by reading two books on negotiation - Never Split the Difference and Getting More. The authors completely debunked my fear of the unknown when it comes to difficult and awkward conversations around money. I put my learnings in practice by getting a 15% salary increase within a month. What I learned from the experience is to embrace negotiation as a game and have fun with it! You miss all the shots you don't take so worst case, the outcome would have been no and I would not have been any worse off than before I asked. By practicing negotiation I realized that the old classic “Ask and you shall receive” was true more often than not when it comes to money. So instead of “Playing not to lose I started playing to win” and made advocating for myself a constant practice because communication is a process and not a one time exchange.
There is so much more about money I will share with you when you work with me to Overcome Your Money Fear. In only 30 Days, I will help you Gain Control of your Financial Future by transforming your Money Mindset and Leveling up your Financial Literacy to Work For You so you can live your Dream Life.
Here are some daily mantras to cultivate a Happy Money Mindset :)
I am worthy of success
I deserve success
My product and time are worth a lot of money
My services change people's lives for the better
I deserve to be recognized as an expert
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